Seth Godin and Dr. Sue Johnson (#747)
This episode is a two-for-one, and that’s because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I’ve curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features segments from episode #138 “ How Seth Godin Manages His Life — Rules, Principles, and Obsessions ” and episode #529 “ Iconic Therapist Dr. Sue Johnson — How to Improve Sex and Crack the Code of Love .”
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#747: Seth Godin and Dr. Sue Johnson
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SHOW NOTES
[07:36] Notes about this supercombo format.
[08:39] Enter Seth Godin.
[09:05] Seth’s rules for speaking engagements and why he developed them.
[13:53] Navigating life’s big transitions.
[15:54] Why Seth publishes a daily blog.
[16:54] Writing process and overcoming blocks.
[21:01] Top businesss decisions.
[22:45] Discerning between good and bad ideas.
[24:27] Are you cut out to be an entrepreneur or a freelancer?
[30:10] Opportunies Seth is glad he declined.
[31:56] Money is a story. How does Seth tell it?
[34:56] Seth on education.
[38:11] Suggested practices for overwhelmed parents.
[41:03] Enter Dr. Sue Johnson.
[41:39] Peer-reviewed clinical research supporting Sue’s work.
[44:47] EFT’s success rate and clinical definition of success in studies with distressed couples.
[48:47] Scales used to assess marital satisfaction and bond in research.
[54:55] Definition of a hold me tight conversation.
[56:15] Examples of hold me tight conversations.
[1:05:52] How a hold me tight conversation might work for someone who tends to isolate or feels isolated.
[1:14:35] Prevalence of isolation and the stigma around “dependency.”
[1:18:27] Attachment parenting vs. sleep training.
[1:28:09] Micro-interventions from Rogerian models of therapy (evocative questions).
[1:36:38] Sue’s response to clients who struggle to identify their feelings in their body.
[1:43:32] Upping the ante in a hold me tight conversation and its unintended effects.
[1:45:26] Sue’s approach to helping someone work through anger.
[1:48:53] Sue’s fascination with Winston Churchill and recommended reading.
[1:54:24] Common arguments between tango couples.
[2:07:35] Advice for couples who are in love but lack sexual spark.
[2:17:02] Advice for couples where the woman has a higher sex drive than the man.
[2:22:35] Development and content of Sue’s Hold Me Tight Online program.
[2:27:08] Parting thoughts.
SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE
Connect with Seth Godin:
Website | Seth’s Blog | Instagram | Facebook
The Song of Significance: A New Manifesto for Teams by Seth Godin | Amazon
Other Books by Seth Godin | Amazon
Up in the Air | Prime Video
Glengarry Glen Ross | Prime Video
Derek Sivers on Developing Confidence, Finding Happiness, and Saying No to Millions | The Tim Ferriss Show #125
Spider-Man | Prime Video
The 4-Hour Chef: The Simple Path to Cooking Like a Pro, Learning Anything, and Living the Good Life by Timothy Ferriss | Amazon
Chip Conley — Building Empires, Tackling Cancer, and Surfing the Liminal | The Tim Ferriss Show #374
Do You Need Stephen King’s Pencil? | Ann Kroeker
How to Overcome Writer’s Block | Dexa AI
The Simple Cure for Writer’s Block | Seth’s Blog
52 Ways to Simplify Your Life by Lynn Gordon and Susan Synarski | Amazon
A Short History of the Web | CERN
Is Google Making the Web Stupid? | Seth’s Blog
All Marketers are Liars: The Underground Classic That Explains How Marketing Really Works — And Why Authenticity Is the Best Marketing of All by Seth Godin | Amazon
Four Reasons Why Riders Choose Uber | Investopedia
First, Ten | Seth’s Blog
Neil Gaiman — The Interview I’ve Waited 20 Years to Do | The Tim Ferriss Show #366
Stop Stealing Dreams (What Is School For?) by Seth Godin | Seth’s Blog
Master Marketer Seth Godin Shares His Secret to Bond with His Kids | Lift Enrichment
Connect with Dr. Sue Johnson :
Website | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn
Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families by Dr. Sue Johnson | Amazon
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson | Amazon
Hold Me Tight Online Program
What is EFT? | The International Centre For Excellence In Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)
Outcomes Research | Johns Hopkins Medicine
At the Heart of Health | Cardus
What Is a Milonga? | Argentine Tango
How to Live Like a Rock Star (or Tango Star) in Buenos Aires | Tim Ferriss
Predicting Change in Marital Satisfaction Throughout Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy | Journal of Marital and Family Therapy
Hamilton Depression Rating Scale (HDRS) | UF Health
Clinician-Administered PTSD Scale for DSM-5 (CAPS-5) – PTSD | National Center for PTSD
Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships by Dr. Sue Johnson | Amazon
Dyadic Adjustment Scale (DAS) | Fetzer Institute
Beck’s Depression Inventory | ISMA
Experiences in Close Relationships Scale (ESR) | Open-Source Psychometrics Project
A Brief Overview of Adult Attachment Theory and Research | University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign Department of Psychology
Soothing the Threatened Brain: Leveraging Contact Comfort with Emotionally Focused Therapy | PloS One
What is Hold Me Tight? | ICEEFT
My Healing Journey After Childhood Abuse (Includes Extensive Resource List) | The Tim Ferriss Show #464
Desperado by Eagles | Amazon
Attachment Parenting Basic Principles and Criticisms | Verywell Family
Sleep Training Your Child: Myths and Facts Every Parent Should Know | Duke Department of Pediatrics
Implementing a Student-Sustained No One Dies Alone (NODA) Program at an Academic Institution | Center to Advance Palliative Care
In Pictures: Politician Mothers Take Their Babies to Work | BBC News
New Zealand Speaker Cradles MP’s Baby during Parliament Debate | BBC News
Stroppy | Merriam-Webster
An Introduction to Rogerian (Person-Centered) Therapy | ThoughtCo.
Ten Strategies for Evoking Change Talk | UIHI
Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy | Hakomi Institute
The Last Lion Box Set: Winston Spencer Churchill, 1874 – 1965 by Paul Reid and William Manchester | Amazon
What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry | Amazon
How Winston Churchill Endured the Blitz — and Taught the People of England to Do the Same | Smithsonian Magazine
Winston Churchill during the First World War in Belgium | Imperial War Museums
Tango | Wikipedia
Tango World Record: Tim Ferriss and Alicia Monti | Live with Regis and Kelly
Los Hermanos Macana | YouTube
Requiem for a Niño Bien | The Tango Life
The Cathedral of Tango: Review of Sunderland Club, Buenos Aires, Argentina | Trip Advisor
The Swan Mating Ritual | Destination Stratford
Unconscious Desire: The Affective and Motivational Aspects of Subliminal Sexual Priming | Archives of Sexual Behavior
The Misunderstood Science of Sexual Desire | New York Magazine
A.R.E. You There? What Is the Secret Ingredient That Makes a Relationship Thrive? | Ondina Wellness
Sexuality in Older Couples: Individual and Dyadic Characteristics | Archives of Sexual Behavior
PEOPLE MENTIONED
Jack Lemmon
Zig Ziglar
Derek Sivers
Spider-Man
Chip Conley
Stephen King
Po Bronson
Lynn Gordon
Sisyphus
Mark Hurst
Larry Ellison
Neil Gaiman
Bill Gross
Steven Spielberg
James Coan
John Bowlby
Carl Rogers
Winston Churchill
Oprah Winfrey
Bruce D. Perry
Omri Gillath
Rosemary Basson
James S. Chisholm
Edward O. Laumann
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